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What a Beautiful Mess This Is

Wouldn't it be nice if all the things that needed to be done were just...well...done? All the cleaning, organizing, shopping, writing, working, studying, cooking, decluttering, fixing, healing, vaccinating, distancing, trying, falling, mowing, shoveling, washing, drying, emptying, planning, meeting, zooming, calling, ordering, wrapping, digging, moving, processing, resolving, analyzing, growing, loosing, finding...


I mean, there is definitely a part of us that has this idea that once ____ is done, then I'll feel ____. {Fill in the blanks with whatever task is on your mind and what you imagine the end result will be for you.}

Regardless of what task I may be thinking of at any given moment, the end result I imagine is something along the lines of: I'll feel...better; calm; happy; able to move forward; able to sleep; able to relax. You catch my drift? My guess is that your end result will have a similar theme.



Generally speaking, we don't like un-doneness. Chaos feels...chaotic... and all the to-dos can feel overwhelming, because they literally will never stop. There will likely always be something undone in our lives, even if it is your shoelaces; let alone chaotic, or overwhelming.

What if the goal isn't to accomplish it all and have nothing left to do; or to have everything organized, always; or to experience no hint of overwhelm, ever?

Life is a f*&% process.

It just actually is. It can be messy, confusing, disarming and uncomfortable, but that doesn't mean anything is wrong. It just means it is messy, confusing, disarming and uncomfortable. And do you know what?

Messes can be cleaned up, we can get clarity when we are confused, we can work through what comes up when we feel disarmed, and being uncomfortable won't last forever.


The Beauty is in our Becoming

Discomfort really won't last forever. The beauty in the inevitable messiness of life is that we have an opportunity to stretch and grow; to deepen into love, to expand our understanding of life, to heal what is broken, to reclaim what was lost, and to celebrate the wins (regardless of the size). This is the process of our own becoming more fully who we've been created to be.

In the first picture, above, there is a pokey pile of wood. I feel like it is in a heap, not an organized or easy to work with pile. I don't even know what the heck it is for. And if it IS for something, there are no directions or indication of what it should be or look like. Why can't it be easy? Why can't someone just tell me what to do?

Someone could. Many have. I spent decades of my life listening and adjusting who I was to try to meet what they were suggesting. But it was a half-life being half-heartedly lived .

What I know is that you and I want to live whole-heartedly. We want to be free to live fully. My friend, freedom and choice go hand in hand. You can't have one without the other. Choice is that fork in the road where we can find the to-do lists, messes and heaps of wood. We can look and choose to see the un-doneness, chaos and overwhelm, or we can see the possibility of growth, deepening and expansion. We can choose to fight against the inevitable process of life. We can. We have that freedom.

But what if, instead of fighting the dis-order, we pick up those pokey pieces of wood...and work with fashion a willingness to welcome the place we are. Which may be uncomfortable. Which may be messy. It may also be quite lovely and tender. And as we sit there, we might just realize we are already whole, we are already free, we are already peace. Right here. Right where we are.

Sending you so much love and light on your journey. Love, Rachel

For your listening pleasure, check out this song by one of my favorite artists - Jason Mraz:


Rachel Sartori is an Embodiment and Wholeness Coach. She is kick-ass and heart-centered whether she is showing up as a workshop/retreat facilitator, a private coach, a writer or a speaker. Rachel invites you to exercise your soul, and participate in the healing of your own heart and the world around you. With Rachel, all is welcome, all the time.

Read: Exercise Your Soul: Ignite Healing and Wholeness in your Life and Live from the Inside Out

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