Self-Love. 💚 Self-Care. 🐝 Buzz words {like these} can loose their sting of truth when we hear them so often our brains just tune them out. They became buzz words because they carry seeds of truth, which means that our invitation is to consciously wake up, lean in and get curious about how they are growing within our own selves. Here I explore what self-love is and how we can cultivate it in our lives SO THAT we can live our fullest lives, from the inside out.
What is Self-Love? Self-love is knowing and embodying the truth of your wholeness and goodness...always.
Not just when you are "good" or "acceptable" in someone else's eyes.
Not just when you perform to your own highest expectations. It is essential to living your fullest life. It just is.
Chasing Unicorns 🦄 Wouldn’t it be fabulous if we just loved ourselves ALL the time?
Figuring out LOVE can feel a bit like chasing a unicorn. Why?
Because we fall into patterns and programming that suggest we need to do or be a certain way (or not do or not be another way)...
to be acceptable, love-able, good, worthy, whole.
We look for the precise thing or the right person that will prove that we are, in fact all those things. If we can find the just right fit, then perhaps it will convince the very scared part of us that believes otherwise, and we will finally be able to relax, belong and live the whole-hearted lives we so desire.
Until we slow down and intentionally cultivate self-love from within, we will just keep chasing unicorns. 🦄
The HOW Cultivating Self-Love calls for three things: to Know, to Embody and to Forgive. 1. Know the Truth of your Essential Goodness and Worth 2. Embody the Truth of your Essential Goodness and Worth 3. Forgive yourself when you miss the mark.
When we practice these three things, we begin to shift from logically knowing that we are "good" into 👉🏼 embodied knowing in our cells into 👉🏼 transcendent knowing that connects us to That Which is Greater Than We Are.
Freedom, Whole-hearted Living and, well, LOVE are the effects of deepening into and expanding your self-love.
It takes intention and it does ask you to interrupt the patterns and programming that, on a very unconscious and primal level, believe you are just not Good or Worthy at all. The patterns and programming may be really loud, or quiet and subtle. They have become second nature in how you show up in the world and would really prefer to be left to their own devices.
Have Courage, My Love Actually doing the work of cultivating self-love calls for tremendous courage, my friend. If it feels a little scary or big, that is normal. It means there are still ways you can deepen in your truth and live more fully.
For Reflection I will explore each of the three steps to cultivating Self-Love in subsequent blogs. For now, here are some questions for you to consider, journal on or talk about with a friend:
How do YOU define self-love?
How do you know and embody the truth of your wholeness & goodness?
When do you tend to be hard on yourself…and perhaps not so loving?
What is one next step YOU can take today, to cultivate your own self-love?
The world needs the ✨light✨ that only YOU can shine… and it shines most brilliantly when it is powered by self-love.
Here’s to consciously waking-up to self-love,
Rachel
Other Blogs in this Series: I know that I KNOW Self-Love Embodied The Bridge Back: Forgiveness
Rachel Sartori is an Embodiment and Wholeness Coach. She is kick-ass and heart-centered whether she is showing up as a workshop/retreat facilitator, a private coach, a writer or a speaker. Rachel invites you to exercise your soul, and participate in the healing of your own heart and the world around you. With Rachel, all is welcome, all the time.
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